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It's not "goodbye," it's...
Friday, December 17, 2010

I can haz music warz?
Thursday, December 2, 2010

Two weeks
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
November (10)

Interviews, for reals!
Thursday, November 18, 2010

Can I get a pdf of this?
Thursday, November 18, 2010

SfN 2010 Day 5: A video featuring Tideliar and Dr Becca
Wednesday, November 17, 2010

SfN 2010 Day 3: A video featuring Tideliar and Dr Becca
Monday, November 15, 2010

SfN Day 2 (better late than never)
Monday, November 15, 2010

SfN 2010, Day 1: a video blog featuring Tideliar and Dr Becca
Saturday, November 13, 2010

30,000 people is not actually that many people
Wednesday, November 10, 2010

We have a winner, and a cocktail!
Sunday, November 7, 2010

You. Immortalized. In a cocktail.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Time for BANTER!!!
Monday, November 1, 2010
October (8)

Your PowerPoint and You
Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Have I told you lately that I love you?
Thursday, October 21, 2010

So I have an Interview.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010

It's bribe time
Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Research Blogging: The Postpartum Brain
Tuesday, October 12, 2010

It's Business Time
Friday, October 8, 2010

That time I was on TV
Thursday, October 7, 2010

What?! Only 300 thread-count and no robe? Two stars!
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
September (5)

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Let me give you my card
Thursday, September 23, 2010

I gotta have some of your attention, give it to me!
Saturday, September 18, 2010

My Science Enemy
Monday, September 13, 2010

What I wish I knew before...I moved to New York City
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
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Thursday, July 29, 2010

If this post's title has you all "Wha?", have a listen here. Yeah, I'm referencing Lady Gaga, you want to make something of it?

Famous Collaborator Dude/probable future PI (if you've been following along on blogspot) is awesome. He's totally brilliant, and has been incredibly generous with his lab resources and time. He's also really good at emailing me back immediately when I have a question, which is nice, although sometimes he gets back to me so fast (and so without punctuation and capital letters) I wonder if he actually read the thing that I sent to him for comments?

There is one thing, though--I can't read him! Normally picking up on social cues is my forté, in person and even in writing, and it's gotten me far. And by "far" I mean "free stuff," sometimes. I didn't realize how much I rely on it to guide my interpersonal behavior, though, until I met him. He's impenetrable! And it's making me feel like I'm freaking Rainman or something. Not a good feeling.

I think I'm finding all of this especially unnerving because I'm the new kid, you know? I want to join his lab for real, and so I want to make him happy and do good work to prove my worth. But I can't tell if I'm making him happy! I just finished a manuscript on which he's last author, and he had almost no comments. Is this good or bad? I don't know!!! Some of you are PIs, right? Would you allow one of your trainees to submit a paper with your name on it that you weren't thoroughly pleased with?

I can sense that my thoughts are devolving into those of a neurotic teenager who isn't sure if the guy who sits behind her in geometry is into her. I feel it's only appropriate, then, that I send Famous Collaborator Dude this note:

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Genomic Repairman
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I think we are going to remain future PI to Iceman. I just hope he doesn't have the horrible Val Kilmer haircut.

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Have you tried asking this person?

I had a very similar issue with one of my students. Convinced -- absolutely convinced -- I was mad at 'em, all the time. I wasn't, but my deadpan was misinterpreted.

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I usually just assume that my PI is always irritated in some way at me, regardless of his blank/annoyed or amused/smirk/??? face (those are essentially the only two when he's in the office). It's a good reminder that I can never work hard enough, and usually isn't TOO depressing.
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Oh, he probably loves you! I doubt he'd allow you to submit a manuscript that he doesn't dig, that would just be strange. So, you must have written an awesome manuscript.

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Ohhhhh, I so feel with you, - I am like this *all the f&#$ing time*... My strategy is to simply assume people will speak up when they think somethings' not ok. Save me lots of time and nerves. Nice new home, btw.

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>_> Yeah, I think I know exactly what you're talking about. Situation not particularly helped by PI's completely hands-off approach to lab management, where the response to any kind of question is generally along the lines of "you're free to do whatever you want". I mean, it's nice, and the PI is awesome, but it's rather psychologically tiring to be constantly scanning for extremely subtle cues during conversations...

Curiously, at least in my admittedly limited experience thus far, those deadpan people tend to be absolutely amazing mind-readers themselves, which makes the situation even more frustrating...
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